Friends, Ships and Life
As Google would tell you ‘Friendship” is the state of being friends or a relationship between friends. Now that would lead would what is/are Friends. I can write the definition from a dictionary or Google and be done with it but that would not be the point now would it. I don’t know why but I feel lost while writing this. It feels like I don’t know where to start or whom to start with. Or its just the last few months that has rattled me and I have gone blank. I rather will start with the questions that are plaguing my mind.

Who are your friends? What is friendship? What are they for? What do they want from you? What are you to them? Are you dispensable or indispensable to them? Why do they have double standards when it comes to friendship? Are there rules to everything in life? Does friendship also come with a conditions apply tag? Is there nothing in life that comes without conditions?

Friends, some have many most have a few and very few have none at all. Where do I fit? Well frankly I don’t know. And which is why I feel lost. You can call people friends when you agree on few points of life or the way you live. You can call people friends when you talk to them or meet them on a regular basis. You can call them friends if you care for them. But how do you know they do the same. How do you know they call you a friend as well and not just somebody they know. It is really hard to measure and tell, frankly it’s just not possible to tell and you just have to trust your gut. I say this because people these days are very good actors/deceivers. They can call you friend at your face then turn and call you an asshole, without a flinch. I will never understand what people stand to gain by doing this. Someone tells me they do this because they want to be in the ‘good list’ in everyone’s mind. But is it really worth it? Are those people able to live with themselves or maybe they are made from different material than mine and do not care for this at all. And such people are only increasing in number. Some ‘friends’ exist only till it pleases or benefits them. Such people are even more dangerous in my opinion as they make an appearance only when they deem fit (for them of course). Then there are tricky people. There are various tricksters (if I may call them that), first are the ones who care for you but with conditions, secondly the ones who have various rules for friends. Its tough to differentiate between the two so I’ll take an example and let you decide. You have two friends one of whom messages you every now n then to ask your whereabouts and stuff and only calls/meets when he/she is in despair, bad mood etc. The second friend on the other hand will be normal always, the moment you ask for something in particular the reply will vary acc. to their convenience. Suppose if two friends asked them to put up a pic of them together one would meet with a reply of ‘no it would raise questions’ while other would get ‘oh yes I miss you so much’. What would that be called preferences, priorities, favouritism or what?
Yes, you must have met some or all the above, possibly even more. While there is this, there is a good side to friends as well. Some do things for you without asking a second question because they trust you. Some stand beside you, no conditions applied. Some start meaning something to you even when you haven’t met them in person. Some talk to you even when you are of no help or use to them. Some become friends just because of YOU, who you are and not what you are. If you ever find the kind, in this journey of life, mark my words ‘DO NOT LOSE’ them. Cherish and treasure them for they are a special breed in this dire world of mean and selfish people.


There will be bad and then there will be good. So if you wish for the good while being good, you shall never feel the presence of the bad ones.

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